Life

Live your life so that if anyone talked bad about you, no one would believe it.

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard.

National Puppy Day

Today is National Puppy Day! In honor of the special occasion, here are a few cute puppy pictures to make you happy…

 

And my personal favorite puppies…

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(Today is also National Chip and Dip Day. My two favorite things in one day!)

You Are an Ocean

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Sleeping Panda Spirit Animal

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I saw this on Instagram yesterday, and I realized that I have found my true spirit animal.  I have done you guys the favor of compiling a gallery of sleeping pandas for your enjoyment.  You are welcome.

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AND, just because you are so awesome, here is a video of a zookeeper trying to wake a panda…

BuzzFeed: Emma Watson Just Gave The Perfect Feminist Dating Advice

Shared with you from BuzzFeed. This is why I love Emma Watson!


In an interview for Facebook about her HeForShecampaign yesterday, Emma Watson dropped a lot of top-notch feminist knowledge.

For example, “Women feel like we need permission. … We need to lead and change that.”

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One of the topics she talked about was feminism, chivalry, and dating.

She was asked: “How would you feel as a [feminist] if a man held the door open for you?”

“I love having the door open for me. And I love being taken to dinner,” Watson responded. “But isn’t that just politeness? … I think the key is — Would you mind if I held the door open for you?,” she asked her male interviewer.

She continued, “I’m polite and you’re polite and we’re making the world a better place with this small kind polite gesture.”

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She also answered the often-asked question: Can you be a feminist and still let the man pay for dinner?

“I actually took a man out for dinner recently. I chose the restaurant and I offered to pay and it was really awkward and uncomfortable,” Watson said, laughing.

“But the cool thing about it was we were both willing to have the conversation about why it was awkward,” she added.

She gave an example of the dinner conversation: “I chose the restaurant this time because it’s my favorite restaurant, you can choose and pay next time. Or you can split it, or whatever! Whatever makes you both comfortable.”

Chivalry should be consensual,” Watson continued. “It’s a problem when people expect things to be a certain way to follow a certain status quo.”

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“We’re in transition right now,” she concluded, “and everyone doesn’t really feel like they know what to do — but it’s OK. Just be willing to have that awkward conversation. It does come out OK in the end.”

“We’re never, ever, ever going to be able to fly as high unless we’re both in support of each other,” she said later.

So let’s fly, Emma.

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My Dream Home, In The Future

The past few years I’ve witnessed classmates graduating and buying a house the very same day.  A house.  I don’t know why this is so crazy to me.  I guess because the idea that in a little over a year I could be buying a house that is all mine is a bit terrifying.  Which is why I most certainly won’t.

First things first, I simply could not afford one, perhaps with the exception of a dog house.  Second, I am most definitely not ready to plant myself in one place, and the idea of buying and selling and buying and selling is so excruciatingly awful that it makes me sick thinking about it.

So, for awhile at least, I’d like to stick to an apartment.  They are relatively easy and it’s nice to have a waiting hand ready to fix any problem that may arise.  Plus, a year long lease is not near as scary as a 30 year mortgage.  That way, when the day comes that I am ready to travel, I can ship my belongings back home and be on my way; no realtor fee, no stressful open house, no making payments for an empty residence.  I just need an apartment that is pet friendly and safe.  And small.  I don’t need anything extravagant.

Any money I save from not having to pay interest and home owner’s insurance, I can save towards a future home.  When I’m ready, I want to build my own house.  It’ll be a lot of work, but the more I can do myself, the better.  I want a large plot of land with a modest home.  A few small bedrooms with a large kitchen and living room surrounding an indoor courtyard.  Single story, with a basement.  Big windows with stained glass frames all throughout.

I’d like to build a zero emission home, opening the possibility of no energy bills.  A compost area, a fruit and vegetable garden, and a large yard for my dogs and foster animals to run.

It wouldn’t be easy, but I’d love the opportunity to do most of the work myself.  I’d have a contractor pour the concrete and build the frame, but I could do a lot of the drywall (aka my stepdad could do a lot of the drywall…).  I’d lie the wood floors myself, paint the walls, beg my stepdad to help with the plumbing, and so on.  I’d buy most of my furniture at garage sales and thrift stores, and refurnish any of them that need it.

I don’t need fancy things, I just want comfort.  I want to be proud of knowing that no one has a home like mine, it is completely unique.  This is my dream home.  What’s yours?

Andrew Solomon on Depression

As many of you know, a while back I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety, a nasty mess I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.  It’s a very scary and unbelievably alienating disease that affects nearly 10% of the adult American population.  Yet, even with such prevalence, it’s hard to talk about.  Really hard.

People have so many questions and honestly I’ve really struggled to answer.  It’s worse when they try to explain why you shouldn’t be depressed to you.  I know, it doesn’t make sense to me either.

Tonight I watch a TED Talk by Andrew Solomon, and I want very much to share it with you.  If you know someone suffering and want to learn more, or if you are suffering and feel alone, I think watching this is helpful.  While sharing his personal anecdote, he explores the prevalence in different demographics throughout the world, the stories of those he’s met along the way, and the sad truth about the lack of affective treatment.  He miraculously conveys such a sad message with a sprinkle of humor and sincerity that has potential to reach people from any side of the spectrum.

“I found myself losing interest in almost everything. I didn’t want to do any of the things I had previously wanted to do, and I didn’t know why. The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment. Everything there was to do seemed like too much work. I would come home and I would see the red light flashing on my answering machine, and instead of being thrilled to hear from my friends, I would think, “What a lot of people that is to have to call back.” Or I would decide I should have lunch, and then I would think, but I’d have to get the food out and put it on a plate and cut it up and chew it and swallow it, and it felt to me like the Stations of the Cross.”

“And one of the things that often gets lost in discussions of depression is that you know it’s ridiculous. You know it’s ridiculous while you’re experiencing it.”

“You don’t think in depression that you’ve put on a gray veil and are seeing the world through the haze of a bad mood. You think that the veil has been taken away, the veil of happiness, and that now you’re seeing truly.”

Good Luck To My Soldier

For the last several weeks I’ve been fairly absent from the blogging world, and with good reason.

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This morning, my best friend swore in to the United States Army.  He left for basic this afternoon.  As sad as I am, I am so absolutely proud of him for following his dreams.

I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for us during and after these next few years.  While this isn’t the life I would have chosen, and you expect the distance to get easier, not harder, I know that it’ll be worth it when everything is said and done.

 

A Change Is Here

Isn’t it crazy how quickly everything can change?  Some change is slow, discreet.  You don’t remember anything being different day to day, but when you look back, you know it was.  But some is quick.  It knocks you to your knees and takes the breath out of you.  Instantly you know nothing could ever be the same again.  Sometimes it’s good, sometimes bad, but usually scary.  What seemed so easy just became a complicated maze.  Which way do you turn to get out?  Do you even want out?  What if there are no good choices?  It’s easy to see why people love having a God to believe in.  Someone to reassure them that there is a reason for everything.  But I don’t know if I can believe that.

Feel the Fear

You have to do this alone, and the only way out is through. So feel the fear, and the pain. Let it all in, and then let it all go.

AHS