One of my very favorite bloggers (seriously go check her out, she’s great) tweeted this quote earlier.
In a closet full of clothes, you say you have nothing to wear. Be that selective in a room full of men.
I’m not sure where she got it, but no matter. It’s brilliant. It’s perfect. There are so many amazing girls out there, and I just want to explain this to you.
You are smart, you are beautiful, you are funny, and you deserve someone who makes you feel as fabulous as the brand new outfit you bought. Someone who can handle the wear and tear of your relationship. You need that faded t-shirt you’ve had for ten years but still looks fantastic on you. Those jeans that fit you no matter what you’ve decided to eat that day. That over-sized sweater that you could just drown in. You need your go-to favorite outfit that never fails you.
Have you ever bought a new bra, and it digs and pokes and squishes in all the wrong places? Now compare it to that brand that is your absolute favorite and you can’t help but buy it in every color.
Sometimes I feel that amazing girls are quick to settle for the sparkly shirt on the first rack, without realizing that those sequins will come off in the first wash, and they’ll snag all of the other clothes in the laundry while they are at it.
Now, pardon the metaphor, but if you keep picking the wrong guys, consider this message. You need that trusty ensemble that can be dressed up or dressed down, the one you can wear to a party but also on a long car ride. Don’t settle for a mediocre boy because he’s the best you can find. What fits someone else may not fit you. Don’t wear around a sweater that makes you feel frumpy or shoes you can’t walk in. You are in the biggest department store in Manhattan, ladies. You are on a budget and it would be a shame to waste your money on the wrong size stilettos.
In all seriousness, you will find the right guy if you are patient. It takes a lot of time to find out which shirt is going to be around forever. Wouldn’t you be so much more comfortable if you waited rather then had to keep changing (and inevitably getting deodorant on new shirts, making your skin red from outfit changes, and having to fix impossibly frazzled hair)?
He’s out there, and I promise you that he is worth the wait. You will never feel more beautiful. Stop trying to squeeze into something that doesn’t fit. Meanwhile, hang around in a towel or my gosh break out those old sweatpants and dance.