Christianity Isn’t a Salad Bar, You Can’t Pick and Choose

The very last Bible Study I attended was over seven years ago. A pastor told me that if you don’t believe in Christ, you are doomed to Hell. I quickly replied with, “what about tribes that have never encountered the Bible or Christianity?” In my incredible disappointment, he responded saying “they will feel a pull towards Christ and will be required to act on this if they want to be saved.” I understand not judging a culture on one man’s words. But I have found that this is a very common belief of Christians.

In my personal experiences, I have found that many Christian followers tend to be close-minded, naive, and hypocritical. I have nothing against the religion, nothing. I have a problem with the way it’s used to treat non-believers. Just because I don’t claim this faith, doesn’t make me a “bad person”, at least I hope not. I go to classes, study, volunteer with the local animal shelter, pay my taxes, respect my elders and peers, and love my Mom. I’ve never been in trouble with the law and I’ve never hurt anybody, at least not on purpose. (Sometimes I clumsily step on some people’s toes.) I believe that being the best person you can is far more important than settling for mediocrity and hiding behind God. I’ve personally been told that because I don’t believe in God, I’m going to hell. I’ve been told this by known sinners that “will be forgiven because they believe.” But wouldn’t God understand my mind? Wouldn’t he see everything I’ve seen, listen to my logic, and forgive me for having doubts?

The second part of this is the blatant hypocrisy I’ve witnessed. If you are going to base your entire life, and your view of me, on the Bible, then please just take every word literal. Don’t just quote the verses you like; the ones that make you look so grand.

  • Timothy 2:11 “I permit no woman to teach or have authority over men; she is to keep silent” Okay ladies, no more voting. And don’t think you’ll have a say in raising your children, or making any of your own decisions for that matter.
  • Deuteronomy 22:20-21 “But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.” Doesn’t sound very forgiving, does it?
  • Ephesians 6:5 “Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ.”

Now please, don’t think that I condemn Christianity, because I don’t, at all. I’ve known some wonderful, forgiving, loving, and accepting Christians. I have many family members and friends whose hearts would break if they knew I felt this way. But I do. I’m so tired of living in a society that labels people as “good or bad” synonymously with “Christian or non-Christian”. If you are prepared to use Leviticus 18:22 to support anti-gay laws in a nation founded on religious freedom, then be prepared to give up the rest of your rights according to the Bible. Be ready to kill your children who disobey you. Be ready to become completely submissive to men. Be ready for corporal punishment. Be ready for Hell. The United States isn’t facing a Christian persecution, as many have claimed. But people are standing up to it. And if that’s the argument you want to stand firmly by, that’s great. I applaud your strength in Jesus, I do. But it’s all or nothing. You can’t just pick and choose which parts to follow and hold the rest of us to these standards.

I’m not a Christian. But I’m not Satan either. And if you truly believe I will burn for that, I’m sorry. But I don’t need to hear it. I don’t need to be told on my way to class. I don’t need to be reminded by my ‘friends’. And I don’t want to have the discussion in a professional setting. My faith absolutely does not determine my strength, my morals, or my capabilities. Know me before you judge me. This goes for everyone of every belief and religion. And if you are Christian and don’t like how you were generalized in this post, think about the people you’ve met. The Muslims. The atheists. No judgement?

11 thoughts on “Christianity Isn’t a Salad Bar, You Can’t Pick and Choose

  1. Aakansha says:

    Each and every person is entitled to choose his own respective path. Even I totally agree. Idol worship or following the PRINCIPLES of a particular religion does not qualify us a good or bad individual. It’s our actions that make us who we are. Lovely post and I totally concur with your opinions.


    • Perse says:

      If there are passages in the Bible that are unChrist-like, why should a person believe it is the perfect model off which to base their opinions and actions? They will not become as perfect as they can be in their peers’ eyes or theirs if their role model is not as perfect as it can be in *their*eyes.


      • Kassie says:

        I think people often take it very literal, when it probably shouldn’t be. I’m very interested in studying religion further, because some of it’s origins are incredibly curious and fascinating. I think you make a good point in that there are imperfect Bible verses, but we are still held to such high-standards, especially as a non-believer. Thank you so much for your comment and also the shares!


      • Perse says:

        I think that’s in line with Kassafrass’s main point, and her objective is to spread awareness of this—or at least trigger discussions with like-minded people.

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